Self-Esteem: Emotional evaluation of your own worth; usually contingent upon meeting or exceeding the standards of value prescribed by the culture they subscribe to or happen to find themselves in. Judgement of oneself as well as attitude toward the self.
Self-Confidence: self fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.
So that was a lot of words so let’s shave it down to the basics. Self-esteem is when you try and live up to what others want.
So if your soccer coach tells you “good job” you have a high self-esteem at the moment, but if they tell you that you messed up really bad then you have a low self-esteem.
Self-esteem is depending on others to tell you how well you are doing something and trying to impress them for a positive reaction.
Confidence is when you are trying to improve for yourself not others. It is when you are okay with failing because it will be a learning experience. Confidence is knowing you can do something and trying your best not for praise but for that feeling you get when you are working so hard at acing that exam and you get 99%.
In life self-esteem won’t get you very far and you won’t be happy because you will always be worried about what others think.
Confidence will get you far in life, make you happy and lead an independent life.
There are ways to develop your confidence. To start off you can make an achievement log. Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you've achieved. This can be a positive thing to look back on to see what you have already managed to succeed in doing.
Learn to ignore the negative comments. If you want to get better at shooting a basketball and someone tells you you can never get better why would you try?
Set small goals. If you set small ones they will start to build up and lead you to success.
*Remember Confident people inspire confidence in others.*
Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence
Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.
Governing your behavior based on what other people think.
Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.
Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.
Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.
Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.
Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.
Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”
Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”
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I logged out of my Instagram today and plan on limiting my activity on it. Logging out of social media meant me logging out of everyone else’s life. I was starting to compare my life to others and comparing how I look to other women. Social media isn’t the only way that a person can put themselves down, also our own personal obstacles. In between all of this, women become overwhelmed and start to limit themselves. I know I do!
I hold myself to high standards and knowing that I was comparing myself to other people made me feel less beautiful. It made me less confident and it led me down the road of self-destruction. My mind was filled with what I could do and be rather than what I am doing now.
I turned on Beautiful by Christina Aguilera and started singing and dancing and all that I was worried about was gone. My mind became clear.
Nothing in this life will be easy, we will cry, laugh, scream and be silent. What you do to get over that wall is what defines you. There’s more than one way over a wall! Remember that!
We learn after our hard times what it means to love ourselves whole heartedly and how important it is to look in the mirror and say to yourself, “You are beautiful.”
Thinking positive thoughts enhances self-love and confidence. See how I told you that I was comparing myself, those thoughts resulted in me feeling less confident. I put down the phone and did things that made me feel beautiful and competent.
Thinking positive is not easy! With everything we as women go through already, positive thinking takes a lot of discipline. Your body regenerates itself with new cells creating new thinking and new habits.
Practice positive thinking and start doing things that make you feel like you are enough. If you think you can change the world, you probably will be the one to do it. Put your social media to rest and appreciate what’s here, right now, in front of you.
There’s nothing better than maturing and knowing that you are enough. All that you have is what the Creator gave you. Nothing more and nothing less.
You are what the creator made you to be and that’s perfection. You are no mistake and the mistakes that you do make, help you become the person you were meant to become.
Think of this when you’ve hit a wall, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be. That helps me not stress myself with where I am in life. Instead of us encouraging women to be and act what they see on reality shows, we should be encouraging our women to love what they see first. Then love what you do and carry yourself with dignity and know that no one can take that away from you.
Trust yourself and work hard. Life gives no promises; all that the universe recognizes is your energy. You give out good energy, you will be given exactly what you give out.